you have to hate who you are in order to change.
As long as you like yourself you will not change, as long as you are content with yourself you will not change. You have to despise yourself, loath your self, you have to be unpleasant with yourself, harsh with yourself. Like a vociferous army general you have to bark at yourself and snap to attention for yourself.
If I am fat, and I don’t want to be fat, I have to want to kill fat Joxua. I have to humiliate and ridicule fat Joxua. I have to take fat Joxua’s ass and put him on a treadmill. I have to keep my eye on him like he is a criminal and he wants to steal some fat and become one with it again, And once I kill fat joxua, if he starts crawling out of his grave again I have to stomp on his fingers and cave his head in with a shovel.
My point is this, Male communication rituals are the language of self transformation, they are the language of self discipline. Female communication rituals are pleasant. Without Masculine communication rituals you don’t have the thought tools, the thought technology necessary for self transformation. there is a theory, linguistic determinism, that essentially states that our vocabulary determines what we can do. And its true, unless you are a wizard, or a linguistic philosopher or a shaman, you can’t break pattern without the words. Without MCR you can’t and wont discipline yourself and you won’t change unless an outside force exerts itself on you.