In all relationship there is an element of conflict and in conflict an element of relationship. You never really know a person until you know what they will do in a conflict. Fritz Perlz said,
“A person uses whatever behavior they believe is dominant when they want to win.”
You can think you know someone for years and then they need to win in one particular situation and you realize that you were never compatible with one another to begin with. You never really know a person until you see how they establish dominance, what behavior they believe to be dominant.
People make all manner of assumptions about what relationship is, and these assumptions leave them blind to manipulation and attack. Let us assume that relationship is an approaching, for the sake of understanding. You do not know a person at the beginning you grow to know them, so…
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