Meditations on Conflict and Relationship

Ascending Dragon Style Tai Chi

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In all relationship there is an element of conflict and in conflict an element of relationship.  You never really know a person until you know what they will do in a conflict.  Fritz Perlz said,

A person uses whatever behavior they believe is dominant when they want to win.” 

You can think you know someone for years and then they need to win in one particular situation and you realize that you were never compatible with one another to begin with.  You never really know a person until you see how they establish dominance, what behavior they believe to be dominant.

People make all manner of assumptions about what relationship is, and these assumptions leave them blind to manipulation and attack.  Let us assume that relationship is an approaching, for the sake of understanding.  You do not know a person at the beginning you grow to know them, so…

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Believing pragmatically.

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Believing pragmatically.

We believe that we might understand.

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PROBLEM CENTRIC NARRATIVE

PROBLEM CENTRIC NARRATIVE

Downward spiral of emotional morbidity.

Fail Bots

Thought Technology

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Based on Joxua/Shivah’s theory of organic computers and his uncanny ability to predict human behavior he realized that some people have programming or patterns that they fulfill and that they are incapable of changing with means that they will continue to repeat the same pattern which they cannot break.  Even if you show the person the pattern, and tell them what they need to do to break it they cannot and will not be able to do it.  They were designed to fail.  Once you understand a person so thoroughly that you can predict their behavior and they have demonstrated a marked inability to get a different result you can either stay in relationship with them and allow them to continually sabotage themselves and yourself or you can leave.  Remember that psychopaths cannot be reformed, they just become more manipulative.  They get something from the pattern that they repeat, they won’t…

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Forcing the Conclusion…

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Depending on how you frame certain topics or events you can force the conclusion.  For example, if marriage is a property contract or a business contract it has a masculine perspective, if it is about love, feelings and affections it has a feminine bias.  The woman in the relationship will be the judge of the relationship and the relationship exists for her benefit and happiness and is judged based on how she is feeling.

The same thing is true with normative judgments in relationships.  There should only be two peoples opinions that matter in the relationship but if normative judgments are allowed it predisposes a cooky cutter form of relationship, it also invites the judgments of 3rd person parties butting in and saying, “HEY! THIS RELATIONSHIP IS BAD AND WRONG BASED ON THE FACT THAT I AM A HUGE IDIOT AND I CAN’T DETECT MY OWN HORSE SHIT!  GUESS WHAT?…

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