In my psychology/philosophy/system, a persons thoughts are congruent with their words and their actions. The discrepancy between these is how you recognize strategic behavior and the psychopath. The disconnect between what they say they are doing and what they are actual doing.
If you observe the narrative of men and women it is obvious that they come from two different narratives, two different perspectives, two different minds and philosophies with different value systems.
The female narrative and the female brain was designed to deal with children, it presupposes an up down relationship a vertical relationship where one person is smarter and far more capable than the other. This is also the narrative of authority. Not a democratic narrative, but a pleasant authoritarian one. Babies start out not being able to do anything for themselves and relying completely on their mothers. The existence of the baby reifies the authority of the mother, but in the absence of the baby the woman’s emotions take the place of the baby. She will indulge her own sentiments as the baby.
Male communication rituals evolved from two full grown worldly wise men talking to one another as they talk about the tribe and policy and the world and the problems, like a mafia don and a Consigliere they are both undeluded about the nature of reality, and you participate not because it was said in a pleasant way, because it wasn’t I am sure there were plenty of f-bombs and more than one reference to fecal matter, my point being you do it because you want to survive or win. You don’t have to be coddled and bribed and kept happy like a baby and you might even get threatened. You are expected to take personal responsibility and do it because it is the best option and it maximizes value for you and the family. It is the language of the philosopher, the language of reason and it is a horizontal language, that presupposes an equal or approaching equal relationship.
Remember, if you will, that the gymnasium is where people practiced philosophy and were initiated into society. It is also where they practiced, pugilism, pankration, and Greco-Roman wrestling, those are martial arts if you don’t know that. Back in the day a duel was considered the highest scientific experiment. Remember too that Domo, from India, taught the shaolin monks kung fu only as an exercise because they were too out of shape to meditate properly.
Men, left to themselves, without the influence or judgement of women, will whip themselves into the peak of physical perfection. Picking on one another until every one of them is a lean, mean, killing machine. They do not pick on one another to weaken themselves or the tribe but to strengthen one another to protect the tribe. This makes no sense to the female mind. She perceives it as unnecessary cruelty.
- Alternative Psychiatric Narratives (CfP, Postgraduate & ECR Conference, Birkbeck, 16-17 May 2014) (medicalhumanities.wordpress.com)
- Narrative structure (davidekpenyongblog.wordpress.com)
- Narratives (andyhorst3.wordpress.com)
- Language: Uniquely Human? (Part Four) (jaimedsykes.wordpress.com)
- Introducing Linguistics in our lifes (kmlomaster.wordpress.com)
- Linguistic Aspects of Interlanguage (linasofia23.wordpress.com)
- Noam Chomsky: Language and Freedom (Review) (envirogeekblog.wordpress.com)
- Corpus linguistics (12125709ava.wordpress.com)
- Younger brains have fewer gender differences compared to older brains – Daily Mail (dailymail.co.uk)
- No, Our Brains Aren’t Hardwired According to Gender Stereotypes (motherboard.vice.com)